Pray for Justice in India (& Don’t Travel There)

I was staring at the screen and suddenly cried. No, I wasn’t watching a silly romantic movie or sad documentary about war. I was reading one news about a 5-year-old Indian girl in New Delhi, who was allegedly kidnapped for 2 days, tortured, raped and finally left to die in her neighbor’s apartment. The suspect is a 22-year-old low-class (or I should say “lowlife”) factory worker.

The toddler is currently reported in a “stable” condition, but she may need corrective surgeries due to her extreme injuries. From what I read, especially in the neck and genitalia area.

I can’t be more disturbed when I read it. A bit furious, for no reason. I don’t know her personally, I don’t know her parents or siblings, but I’m a woman.

I believe that every child deserves a chance to grow and develop his/ her full potential in a positive environment. In the news I read, it said that the poor family of the girl was offered INR 2,000 (less than four-hundred-freaking-thousand rupiah!!) to keep quiet.

India needs a female leader who would pay attention to these matters. The country of 1.2 billion has gained so many critiques for all the horrible cases that happened to women over the past few months.

Here I am, sitting in my comfy chair, reading this, and I can just close the screen right now and pretend that this world is okay. But it is not. After watching a thrilling coverage of manhunt in Massachusetts on CNN the whole day yesterday, I think this news is more disturbing. These criminals –terrorist & rapist– are young men (19 and 22) who have the world in their grips and the stamina to work hard and be the best they can be. But they chose to hurt innocent people, for whatever reasons which are probably personal.

This is a sick world.

Now, I have been to some parts of India and I used to “defend” this country when people say bad stigma about it. In fact, I really enjoyed my long holiday there, and I’ve met many friendly people who then became my new friends. But I would not encourage people to visit India for now, because there is something really disturbing about how the government handle such criminal cases against women.

Yes, some parts of India are beautiful indeed, but as a solo female traveler I wouldn’t suggest the place as a “travel destination” to traveler friends… More over, to fellow female travelers. There are still many beautiful travel destinations in the world!

So, no, I won’t just sit here and forget about the pain of that 5-year-old Indian girl. I will pray for her and her family, and I would speak up my mind and warn people NOT TO VISIT India until the officials take these cases more seriously. If a country can do an EMBARGO, so can we. As world travelers, we can tell people not to visit India, through different communities like Couchsurfing, Meetup, etc. We have the right to save our money and spend it in other countries that are more deserving. No, it’s not about “those individual beasts” (I remember that I used to say that before), it’s about the system, the mindset, the culture.

Men, respect women. When you see them, remember your mother who had carried you for 9 months and delivered you into this world.

As for that 22-year-old factory worker, I can only wish that justice will fall upon him (and hopefully he will get gruesome ‘public punishments’ in the jail –repeatedly). After all, we only reap what we sow.


Would You Date Girls Who Travel?

“Date A Girl Who Travels”

I think the writer of this article is in love with a traveler** 🙂

But jokes aside, I remember that I once asked someone to join my solo trip. I felt that he has a kind heart. And he does. We explored the island, shared beers and laughter, a little bit crazy fun on the side, then before we knew it we were dating for quite a while. We did road trips, hit the road without a single map in hand, got lost here and there, but we’d always enjoyed it.

If I were to meet someone special, I would definitely travel with him for a while first to see how compatible our strength, weakness, intelligence and views about the world are. Maybe I live in vain, or maybe I think too much. But I know what I want.

I know that something worth to wait for is something worth to keep for the rest of your life.

**The harsh truth is most guys would feel intimidated by a female traveler, especially if she likes to travel solo. Many guys would choose a woman who can be a “trophy wife” –someone who physically looks flawless, is a bit clueless about many things, needy and luckily master the art of putting make-up.